A beautiful thought

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Here's a beautiful thought I received through sms today:

In ricefield, you would notice which heads are bent,  which ones stand up straight.
The empty heads are standing tall and high.But the heads that are filled with grains are bending low.
Indeed, the true great and strong people are humble and gentle. They know how to look back. And, they don't mind bowing low.
Humility brings blessings.  The higher you go up, the humbler and simpler you should become.

Beautiful, isn't it? Time for some reflection...

Modern Etiquette: Tips on How to Reform a Rude World

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Here's a beautiful article once featured in Yahoo, written by Mary Mitchell of Reuters. This is definitely worth sharing! :-)

Rudeness is epidemic all over today. And I'm not even talking about cyber-rudeness. People steal each other's cabs. Telephone receptionists are nasty. Sales clerks act like they're doing you a favor when you buy something. Waiters exhibit an attitude. Vicious gossip sells newspapers. Decency is considered boring.

Look outside and you'll see litter everywhere except in trash cans. Sit down in a restaurant and you'll find gum is underneath every table. Go into an office and you'll see bosses who don't treat their teams like human beings - foregoing simple little things like acknowledging their presence with introductions to visitors and clients. The list could go on forever. I know because I pay a lot of attention to these things. I also know because any number of people call or write to tell me their latest manners travesties.

And all of it begs a question.

Hasn't anyone noticed that if we want to change anybody else, we first must change ourselves? Books can be written. Speeches can be made. But I ask you: Who ever learned to ride a bicycle by reading a book?

The point is that any significant, lasting change must come from within, not from without. I can rattle off information about etiquette skills, but they ring hollow if we don't honor some very basic principles for success.

  1. Every living thing deserves respect.
  2. A person's wealth really is determined by the quality and integrity of his relationships. Our relationships are the most important and significant components of our lives. If, in fact, our relationships with our Higher Power, our self, our spouse, our family and friends, and finally, our career - in that order - are healthy, then the material trappings believed by most of us to be "wealth" will more likely become ours. Think about it. What are the qualities and actions that really help in attaining success and sustaining it throughout a business career?
  3. Our relationships are smoother and more satisfying when we understand and use the basic etiquette skills that make sense for our individual lifestyles.
  4. Manners and etiquette are not the same thing. Manners have to do with our basic attitude and approach to life and the people in it. Kindness is the essence of good manners. Etiquette, on the other hand, is a set of rules that govern our relationships in various situations. Etiquette is different from country to country, city to city, company to company. For example, in the United States the handshake is an essential part of greeting. In Japan, however, a bow takes the place of a handshake. Is one better than the other? Certainly not.
  5. Honesty and a sense of humor about oneself are essential to a successful, prosperous life.

To illustrate: One of the most genuinely well-mannered people I've ever met is a fellow named David in Barbados. He is a diver and a fisherman, and certainly makes no effort to present himself as a suave sophisticate. Inevitably, David is likely to appear at the door of tourists, uninvited and unannounced, bearing a just-caught fish so fresh that it fairly quivers. He will then proceed to take over the kitchen and prepare a memorable meal. I've enjoyed several such feasts. Never have I been presented with a fish knife, fish fork, a trio of glasses, or any of the implements that I instruct my clients how to use when dining for business and pleasure. Yet I've never missed them, not once.


Because David -- although he often breaks all the etiquette rules -- exudes so much enthusiasm for life and the people in it. He knows with every fiber of his being that life is all about sharing our experience, our very selves, in the kindest, most joyful, most pleasant way we can. What David knows (and needs no etiquette guide to tell him) is that people are much more important than the rules.

I have no interest in putting myself out of business with this writing. On the contrary. All of those unspoken prejudices about behavior and etiquette are as pronounced in today's business arena as they ever were. But people who do business successfully realize that the essence of productive business relationships is the people in them.

Try this out for yourself with this simple test the next time you have the pleasure of that harassed, apparently surly waiter or waitress: Instead of sounding irritated, try saying in a polite and sympathetic tone: "You really have your hands full, but the next time you come by, may I please have some more coffee?"

You will get your coffee with a smile -- I promise.

Revolutionary Practical Flirting Tips for Discreet and Closeted Homosexual and Bisexual Men this 2011!

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Okay, I admit it. I still maintain an account at Planet Romeo though I'm really not an active user there. Rather, I'm basically just a passive lurker. Want me to expound on it a bit? Ummm, when I'm online, I basically do nothing most of the time but just wait and check my inbox and visitors list every now and then to see who sent me a message and look for any "interesting personalities" who checked my profile out. At most, PR is just one of the inactive tabs in my Chrome multi-tab browser. Good thing, I apparently succeeded in making a pretty decent and sensible profile so far, since guys who try to make connections are mostly the decent and sensible ones most of the time. Hmmmm, are you curious what my account name is? Come closer, i'll whisper it to your ear. hehe. Research research... Promise, I'll date you for a week if you find out. ;-P

Anyway, the reason for this post is an interesting profile statement/write-up I saw in one of my PR profile visitors. I thought it might be worth sharing. Since it was stated in his profile that he just copied it as well from another user, source unknown, I thought it wouldn't be bad to share it here, as well. In fact, I thought it should be a MUST-SHARE since discreet yuppies will really find it useful. You might wanna apply these tips! hehe. So without much further adieu, here it is, copied verbatim....

lets just be spontaneous... :)


HELP SPREAD THIS OUT (*from a friend)

Ever wonder if that cute, hunky, simple, tall guy with you in a public jeepney, inside the MRT or LRT is a bi or gay?

Are you tired of the old fasion way of just staring in the eye of one another but not really getting any clear anwers to whom youre having eye contact with until it was too late and you just say,, "sayang!! ang cute pa nmn nya!!" and you just watch this person as you both part ways and then there is still this "nakaw tingin" but you are just too afraid to approach, not knowing that the guy was also interested in you?

Well its about time to do something about it!! this flirt signs can be done in public with no hassels AT ALL. no fear of having all the non-third sexes figure out it was actually a flirtatious act..

Help me spread out this new kewl stuff to all your networks, may it be friendster or what have you that have access to all other concerned and involved ones..

so lets get started.. lets say, you are in any public means of tranportation, say MRT, LRT, JEEP, FX or even in a private car. and you came across with this hot-looking guy that you cant even sense if he is bi, gay or straight, and you are interested with this person and so is the person is to you.. this is why we all need this to silently communicated and flirt...here is the flirt signs 101.

HOLD YOUR NOSE with one hand like wiping out oil shows your interest to a person.

HOLD YOUR CHIN as if checking all the unshaved beard shows you are interested back to the person.

PINCHING your left ear with one hand means you wanna know if the person is bi or gay.

if you are BI, you just need to LICK OR WET YOUR LIPS while looking at the person.

if you are GAY, you will need to WIPE YOUR EYES like you are wiping out eye dirts.

TOUCH YOUR HEAD, if you wanna know if the person is TOP or bottom, the same thing should be done if you are TOP.

REACH YOUR POCKET (your behind pocket) as if you're reaching for your wallet if you are a bottom.

Now lets say you both understood each other but you didnt know whether the person wants to meet or wait outside of where you both are,, Just RUB YOUR HANDS TOGETHER as if you just put some alcogel on them means lets meet outside. then if the person rubs his hands together too, thats it!! you just caught a big fish out of a small pond.. hahaha

So there you go. What do you think? Pretty clever huh.. So any comments? Violent reactions?Additional tips? Feedbacks are most welcome! :-)

Now why not go and try them out. Who knows, these are really already practiced by many -that I do not know though. Actually, I think that if all discreet guys know about this, whoaaa it can revolutionized Gay/Bi flirting like never before! Oh my... (please don't get me wrong here, im not advocating massive flirtations) So, why not give it a try and be surprised with amazing results! hehe.

PS... But please don't forget to come back here and share your experience... :-)

Unintentional Promiscuity

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

What? Untintentional promiscuity? Is there such???

I tell you there is! J

Wikipedia defines promiscuity as sex with relatively many partners.

Now, indulging in promiscuous acts involves conscious decision and active effort. In short, there is intent to engage in such activity. I call this as intentional promiscuity. So then if there is such a thing as intentional promiscuity, there must also be an unintentional promiscuity.

Intentionally promiscuous men are those who are in the habit of having sex with random men just for the purpose of satisfying their sexual needs.  When you go to gay dating sites, they are typically the ones with very suggestive headlines, steamy pictures, and sexually inviting write ups. So here, we see that the intention is to have sex, for the reason of satisfying sexual needs.

On the other hand, unintentionally promiscuous men usually do not actually claim or see themselves as promiscuous. I personally coin the term “unintentional promiscuity” to refer to such situation of homosexual and bisexual men having a series of multiple sexual partners, but without the original intention of being such.  Unintentionally promiscuous men would often maintain that sex was not really their primary intention; it just happened.  Sounds ridiculous? Probably not.  Why? How come?

Somehow, there is some truth to that.  Unintentional promiscuity can happen to anyone. Particularly among discreet gay and bi men, there is that universal longing for someone to fill that empty spot within. This longing for love and affection is strong and enduring.  It is felt as a need to have someone special. However, finding a decent, “perfect” male partner/lover to fulfill that emotional need is difficult.  Finding the perfect guy is quite impossible. This is particularly true to choosy ones who set high and stiff standards on who and how their partner should be. This leads them into attempts at finding and establish a worthwhile relationship with a nice guy that comes along, which more oftenly involves sex. However, more often than not, things fail and the cycle continues again. Guy after another guy… trying, looking, hoping… wishing the best guy to fulfill that longing for someone special to complete and fill that empty spot within would come. And before long, the number of guys stacks up.  So does that now becomes a case of promiscuity? Yes, definitely. Done intentionally? Apparently not.

So is this difference significant? Does this difference sets one a better state than the other? Would a red-colored shirt look different from a white shirt that fell on a basin of red dye? You decide. :)

A Thin Line

            One thing that seems peculiar among homosexual and bisexual men is the thin boundary that separates pure platonic friendship and romantic-sexual relationship.  In many discreet homosexuals, it is not uncommon to have “friends with benefit” and “fuck buddies” as they are called. They claim that sex between friends does not necessarily involve emotion. It is but having a “release” of pent up sexual urges with someone familiar rather than hooking up with a stranger on a “one night stand” basis. This set up further gives the benefit of security, safety, and confidentiality, etc. without having to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, risk of pregnancy, and compatibility, among other issues associated with random sex. It can be expected that sex with a random stranger for the sake of having sex is nothing but a pure physical interaction meant to satisfy the cravings for sexual pleasure.  However, I personally doubt if periodic sex with a “friend” does not really involve emotions.  

Among many, what happens is either romance occurs first followed by a bloom of friendship or vice versa.  On one hand, through the initial sexual attraction and sexual encounter a friendship can be born.  On the other hand, an existing friendship may pave the way to the benefits of mutually enjoying sexual pleasures.

            So why does romantic friendship exist? Most probably, this occurs due to the fact that since bisexual and homosexual men are sexually attracted to their fellow men, a male friend can be at times become a potential object of sexual desire, given the right and favorable circumstance. And since men are generally primarily sexually-motivated, sexual interactions can occur easily. However, to be fair enough, whether this desire consummates to the sexual act is still subject to one’s self-control, discipline, and personal values.

Differing opinions exist regarding this matter.  Some say it is okay as long as you don’t get hurt or hurt anyone in the process as sex is a basic human need and needs to be enjoyed, while others say it is but a sign of moral looseness and sexual depravity. Others also maintain that having a regular “FUBU” friend is a better alternative to being promiscuous.  Whichever the case maybe, clearly, there is but a thin line that separates pure friendship and romantic friendship, particularly among male homosexuals and bisexuals. Is this good or bad? Is sex between friends okay? You be the judge. It’s totally up to you to decide, depending on your perspectives, beliefs, and philosophies in life.

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